“If only I could pattern a raft
from red flags, safely sail
through bullshit and wait
for clouds to part, a rainbow
to promise, Mujer,
you’ll never need to feign
interest in his interests again,
I wouldn’t be where I began
wishing this compass pointed up
over north, so I’d grow
into a sequoia, let roots
touch the ocean, let stars be
my lovers, so many, I’d never
know a night without kisses again.”
— Xochitl-Julisa Bermejo, “My Latest Dude Poem,” published in Whiskey Tit
These are very simple. I have twelve of these rules, feel free to write them down or add to them when you repost or whenever you feel like it. Also, Disclaimer: you don’t have to follow any of these rules, it’s all up to you. I love you and I hope you’re doing well. 🤍
Rule #1: “Do not give these men sh*t they don’t deserve, did not earn, or cannot afford.”
This goes for everything. Material things, your time, your body, your energy, special treatment. He must earn it. He must deserve it. No excuses.
Rule #2: “We do not argue with men nor do we agree with them in any circumstance.”
This was obviously partially a joke. What I really meant here was don’t give them the luxury of getting under your skin with ignorance or over something irrelevant. We don’t gain anything from a heated interaction with a man that isn’t offering anything and the only thing they win is the ability to make you sweat.
Rule #3: “Do not let them hit. Settle for a strap and a lesbian”
I’m ONLY kidding delete your paragraph. What I really meant for this was to be the woman who knows what she likes and can give herself pleasure without the need of a male companion. If you’re sexually active and you want a partner for casual sex too that’s always valid and always okay.
Rule #4: “Don’t date men that you don’t really like aren’t worth it.”
Originally, this said: “Stay single. You ain’t never need a b*tch, you what a b*tch need.” But I changed it to fit the tone of my post. This rule is important, not everyone you find attractive needs to be pursued and some men aren’t cut out to be good boyfriends/partners. Don’t bless people with your energy who never deserved it in the first place.
Rule #5: “Do not laugh at their jokes. Boys aren’t funny. Tough crowd tonight.”
Satire. This rule is about understanding it’s okay to not entertain men or people even when you don’t enjoy their sense of humor or something they’ve said didn’t sound as good as it did in their head. Sometimes we hear people make jokes about things like S/A that really aren’t funny. Be real.
Rule #6: “Men ain’t sh*t, don’t know sh*t, and will never be sh*t”
Alright, okay, I’ll settle down.
Rule #8: “If he wanted to, he would.”
Simply put. Men are going to do what they want to do regardless of the situation. If he wanted to come to see you he would. If he wanted to speak to you or have something serious for you he would. If he wanted to do something nice for you and treat you to something special he would. Don’t settle. Never take bullsh*t excuses.
Rule #9: “Never trust a boy/man who only texts you or calls you at night.”
These types are no good. Red Flag! Avoid this at all costs. Some men are busy, okay he’ll make time for you. But someone who only texts/calls you at night and makes excuses as to why he can’t talk to you during the day or simply doesn’t answer is someone who doesn’t have the purest of intentions. You know exactly what he wants. Don’t ignore this. Don’t be naive.
Rule #10: “Stay away from boys/men with mommy issues.”
They need therapy, meditation, and a journal not a super hot girlfriend who is a lovely person and would do anything for him. Granted, we all sympathize, growing up without a parent is never fun but you have to understand that growing up without a mommy takes a huge toll on most men and they tend to come with a lot of issues that cannot be fixed with just your presence alone. It’s okay to love, respect, and sympathize with someone from a distance.
Rule #11: “Never let a boy/man tell you he doesn’t need or want you more than once.”
This one is important, it’s disrespecting yourself to stick around when someone has already made it abundantly clear you are not what they truly want. Your love and respect for yourself has to be bigger than the love and respect you have for others. What’s meant for you will be yours. Period.
Rule #12: “Men will put you through what you allow them to.”
This is one of my favorite ones. Set your boundaries and do not break them down or move them for anybody. Especially not a man who will certainly continue to put you through unnecessary drama and pain just because he can.
so I got into grad school today with my shitty 2.8 gpa and the moral of the story is reblog those good luck posts for the love of god
okay so i just got my dream job??? a week after applying to it?? and now i’m thinking….maybe this is the good luck post
…..not even six hours later i got an offer of a well paying full time long-term job with free room and board in queens in nyc, allowing me independence and a way to escape an abusive situation and an unhealthy environment
likes charge reblogs cast, folks, this is the good luck post
I need this. Yesterday (1 hour and 15min before lol) was my bday and it was terrible from the start
1. Learn to let go of what happened in the past. You deserve a new start and a fresh beginning. We’ve all messed up and experienced bad things. So don’t allow these memories to rob you of your future. You’re not just a product and a victim of your past. Acknowledge and work through any negative emotions – then put them behind you and start to live again.
2. Work on forgiving yourself. Don’t punish yourself for your past failings or regrets. Instead, see them as a lesson, and a chance to learn and grow. Don’t ridicule, demean or devalue yourself. That was then – this is now … You are different - so move on.
3. Keep a journal where you write down all your thoughts and feelings. When you’re feeling positive, try to savour those emotions and a build a memory trace of all that’s good and positive. When you’re feeling negative try to show some self-compassion, and seek to be gentle and kind to yourself. You need to work on validating and affirming yourself – not being your own enemy and tearing yourself down.
4. Be persistent as you work on accepting yourself. A key part of love is unconditional acceptance. So work on loving who you are right now. Only then will you be able to change some parts of yourself – because you’re able to accept who you are at the core.
5. Trust yourself. You don’t have to please others, or to follow their dictates. Learn to trust your intuition and your own personal judgments.
6. Practice saying “no”. It’s okay to say “no” without feeling guilty. You have the right to decide what you’ll do with your life.
7. Practice receiving and accepting love from others. Know you’re worthy of love – and other people really mean it when they say that you matter, and they love and care for you.
